Welcome to the  website of my new book (see title above, and the explanation of it on the right).

So what is this book about? Read on---

From the beginning, Satan has declared war on the family. But now, Satan is stepping up his attack on the family to bring it down—with the help of Christian women. Satan has found that the best way for him to destroy the family is to start from its formation—by getting Christian women to date and marry men who are not true brothers in the Lord. In this endeavor, Satan is succeeding big time, and will continue to do so, unless Christian women everywhere wake up and realize what is happening. They also need to recognize who they are, and why they should not settle for anything less than a man who is a true brother in the Lord. This book will help in that endeavor, as well as expose Satan’s plan for Christian women everywhere. Topics covered in this book include:

• Reasons why Christian women choose to       date and marry unsaved men.

• The consequences Christian women will suffer for pursuing unsaved men.

• The consequences their children and future husbands will suffer as well.

• How Christian women misuse the Gospel of Jesus while dating unsaved men.

• The excuses Christian women give to justify their disobedience.

• How to heal from past ungodly  relationships.

• How to be the woman that a Christian man will want to pursue.

The above information is what appears on the back cover of the book. Unfortunately, I did not have the room to add more info about the book on the back cover, so I will do it here. This book also discusses the following:

• God's design for marriage and the family.
• The roles of the husband and wife.
• Graphically describes what Jesus went through for our salvation, and why we should never take the Gospel of Jesus Christ so lightly, or misuse it for our own selfish advantages.
• How a spouse should be a special gift from the Lord, not our own "thirty pieces of silver."
• The pattern a Christian woman follows when entering into a relationship with an unsaved man and the resulting morganatic marriage.
• What happens when children are willfully denied a godly man for a father.
• The healing and restoration power of God, no matter how badly we may have messed up our lives.
• The roles that God has put in place for each member of the family.
• The importance of a strong marital bond that is only made strong by both spouses having a true relationship with the Lord. 
• What a wife is and is not, and what a husband is and is not.
• What true love is, and how to recognize it, especially as it pertains to dating and marriage.
• How a Christian woman should think of herself, how to recognize who and what she is in Christ Jesus, and how to recognize who and what she ought to be in Christ Jesus.
• How a Christian woman can repent for her past ungodly relationships, how to move on and prevent any more future ones, and how to prevent her past from affecting her relationship with the brother in the Lord that God sends to her.
• The importance of relying on Godly wisdom and the leading of the Holy Spirit, not on feelings and emotions.
• How a Christian woman can equip herself with everything she needs to withstand the tricks, tactics, and temptations of Satan.
• How to find a godly husband (or rather be found by one) and what qualities and characteristics to look for in a man (and what not to look for).
• How to get a brother in the Lord interested in you, and how to maintain your relationship with him.
• How to teach the importance of having an equally yoked marriage to the next generation.
• The importance of maintaining your relationship with Jesus.

This book also has my testimony, and a couple of inspirational writings--one of which is from my mother, a wonderful woman of God. 

I must also point out that I had my mother proofread each chapter, so that she can help me make sure that what I've written would be received by women, and that I do not write anything that would be remotely considered to be offensive or condemning to my sisters in Christ in any way. I've had a few other women in church read it as well, and I can assure you that if there was anything objectionable, condemning, or offensive to a woman in any way, shape, or form, they would not have hesitated to tell me so. Since I am a man and therefore do not think like a woman, I needed the valuable feedback from these women--especially my mother (Thanks, Mom! :-)). After all, mother knows best, right? Thanks to all who helped with the feedback! And I would love your feedback as well! But I only want your feedback if you've actually read the book. I cannot respect or receive your criticism of my book if you haven't even read it. Read it first--then I will gladly receive your criticism of my book, be it good or bad. Also, if you have a testimony of how this book affected your life, please share it. And if you want, I will post your testimony on this website. To purchase a copy of my book, go here.

About the Author (that would be me!):

JAMES JOSEPH ARMATO is a graduate of Hofstra University and an Air Force veteran. He currently resides in Massapequa Park in Long Island, New York, while holding down two jobs as a restaurant server. He is a member of Bethpage Assembly of God church. This is his first book.

Anything else you want to know about me, feel free to ask.

Why Did I Write This Book? 

Here's the primary reason:

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?–2 Corinthians 6:14 (NKJV)

I wrote this book, because there are too many women in the Christian community today choosing to date and marry men who are not true brothers in Christ. Such a foolish choice is resulting in a lot of sad consequences plaguing the church today. The divorce rate in the church today is just as high as the divorce rate in the secular world, and a lot of that is the result of Christians choosing to date and marry people who are not true followers of Christ. Christian women today seem to follow their feelings and emotions more than the conviction of the Holy Spirit. The modern Christian woman seems to care more about what a man does for her in bed than what Christ did for her on the cross. Such women may say "It's my life!" But they are blinded to the fact that the choices they make in which men they choose to give themselves to will affect not only them, but also the church, the brothers in Christ that the Lord actually chose for them, and even society in general. Children will especially suffer the consequences of their mothers' poor choices in men. For starters, children today are being willfully denied a godly man for a father, due to the large number of Christian women putting their feelings and emotions above God's Word. So many families in the church today are being easily destroyed even before they begin, because more and more Christian women are doing it their way instead of God's way. Christian women today are so focused on their feelings and emotions, that they are blinded to Satan's plan for them. Satan is doing all he can to destroy the family, as well as the next generation, and one of the major ways he's doing it is by getting Christian women to date and marry men who are not true brothers in Christ; thereby, removing the spiritual head of the household, which will in turn give Satan and his minions legal ground into the home. And boy, is he succeeding big time! And Satan will succeed more and more, and we will lose a whole generation to Satan and his corrupt system, unless Christian women everywhere wake up to what Satan is trying to do through them, and start doing things God's way. 

With this book, and with the help of the Lord, I want to do my part to change this sad situation. After reading this book (in addition to the greatest book of all--the Holy Bible), I hope and pray that you will, too.  

And by the way, I am working on a similar book for the men. So if there's anything you want me to tell our brothers in the Lord, let's have it!

Stoopid (adjective)--1.The combination of the words "stupid" and "stoop"-- used to describe one who foolishly stoops below the standard that one is called to live up to, or indeed exceed. 2. used to describe a person who doesn't recognize his/her own worth and entitlement.

Disclaimer: This word does not actually appear in the dictionary. I came up with the word and its meaning. Neither does this word have anything to do with the alternate, goofy spelling of the word "stupid."